Do your words give life or bring death?

Paul David Tripp has said, “You have never spoken a neutral word in your life. Your words have the power of life and death in them.” This morning, Proverbs 12:18, made that come to life for me: There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Lord, help me to speak words that are sweet to the ears of those around me. Let me speak life to people, and not death. Continue reading Do your words give life or bring death?

Tripp on Not Seeing the Anger that Lives in You

In part 5 of the “How to Be Good and Angry” seminar, Paul Tripp talks about what happens if you fail to acknowledge that anger is something that lives inside of you, not outside of you.  He said that if you fail to acknowledge this: You will personalize what is not personal. You will turn God-given moments of ministry into moments of anger. You will be adversarial in your response. You will settle for quick situational solutions that don’t get to the heart of what is really going on (such as breaking off relationship, moving locations, giving condemnation, slandering the … Continue reading Tripp on Not Seeing the Anger that Lives in You

Paul Tripp on How Good Things Become Bad Things

Paul Tripp shows the progression of how good things in life become bad things, and then proceed to ruin our relationships. (This isn’t an exact quote, just my paraphrase.) Desire is basically an “I want…” Jesus did this Gethsemane. But then he said, “Father, not my will, but yours be done.” Well, our desire then morphs very quickly into a demand: “I must…” Desire then morphs further into a need: “I will…I cannot live without it.” When you call something a need, you have made yourself unwilling to live without it. A need then morphs into an expectation: “You should.” … Continue reading Paul Tripp on How Good Things Become Bad Things

Proverbs: Wisdom in Speech

Part 6 in a 7 part series. View series intro and index. Let me say this right up front: I am not the greatest example of wise speech.  I’ve stuck my foot in my mouth a few times and I have let a few foul words slip as well.  Yet in his great mercy, despite my constant failures, God is refining my tongue.  I praise him for his sanctifying and empowering grace. Proverbs has more to say about our speech than any other subject – besides the benefits of wisdom.  Indeed, this is a major theme of the Bible as well.  Luke … Continue reading Proverbs: Wisdom in Speech

Pitfalls in Communication: Sin

Part 6 of a 6 part series. View series intro and index. Let’s have a short review of everything we’ve discussed over the past six weeks about our communication.  We assume the worst about people and assume they know what we are thinking.  We communicate differently than our neighbors, our friends, and the opposite gender because we are all from different cultures.  We tend to withhold important truths, manipulate facts, or change the subject.  We want to avoid talking to people face-to-face because it’s uncomfortable.  We have unreasonable expectations and therefore, become greatly disappointed in others. That’s a pretty dismal pedigree.  All … Continue reading Pitfalls in Communication: Sin

Communication and Sovereignty

When our words flow out of a heart that seeks control, it simply points to a deeper truth that we do not rest in the sovereignty of God.  Instead of seeking control, we need to let God be God.  In Paul Tripp’s book, War of Words, he provides seven questions for us to think about when we consider our communication struggles. How does your communication reveal a frustration with people and circumstances? In what ways is your communication an attempt to take control? How do you typically respond when your plans are thwarted? How do you respond when God sends … Continue reading Communication and Sovereignty